Kinds of love (For Advanced Learners)

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If you have experienced a painful breakup, being cheated by somebody else, or maybe you were expecting love from that person but he never gave you love the way you wanted? – you are part of the 95% of the population in this planet that came here to this life to learn and reconnect with the real-life purpose we all have: TO RECONNECT AND PRACTICE REAL LOVE.

This article is based on my 37 years of life experience. So far so good. I think I had experienced all kinds of love. Family love, animals love, plants love, conditional love, sick love, painful love, and unconditional love.  I also experience the opposite of love, that is ….(Fill in the blank).  Some of us call hate?  Can be sadness, anger, judgment, etc. Depends on how you are now and what is your body+mind+soul state at this point in your life.

For those who are very logical and love to think and think, this may not be for you. Love is abstract, is wide, is beautiful. If you want to find the logic for it, you are minimizing it, you are losing the big scope and magic. LOVE Is like a glue that keeps us together, is beyond science, is beyond your narrow mind. So, no need to read this. But if you have been suffering because of love and finally want to start to use your heart to understand, this wisdom I will share here will help you.

I am not the owner of the truth, the truth about love exist already everywhere. I am collecting some concepts I learned plus the experience of my life.  What I share here doesn’t mean is right or wrong. Is just my journey.

 

KINDS OF LOVE

There are only 4 kinds of love, each of them can be manifested in many ways. We can label them in many ways, but in the end, there are just a few to understand that will allow us to raise our awareness and support our spiritual growth.

 

 

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1- CONDITIONAL LOVE

Have you ever heard yourself saying:

“I love you IF you love me?” Or maybe: “He doesn’t love me the way I want!”

Or, “why don’t you love me?” “I wish He change (so I will love him)”

Maybe there are some “pre-requirements” to fall “in love” such as:

“The man I want to find to love must have a (fill in the blank), a (fill in the blank), and a (fill in the blank)

“I WANT him to be (fill in the blank)

OR maybe there are some “post-requirements” once you are already in the relationship, such as:

“I love him but (fill in the blank)

“I think he doesn’t love me because we are not having (fill in the blank)

“I want him to be more (fill in the blank)

 

This kind of love has conditions. Is a TRANSACTION. Usually, if there is no agreement and the transactions are not successfully accomplished, the result is less love, the love is going down, or no love.

CONDITIONAL LOVE is practiced by most of the humans in this life on this planet.  I learned this and practice this since I was a kid. I saw there was a lot of struggle in the relationships within my family, friends and on TV. So, I thought CONDITIONAL LOVE was something normal. But is not.

CONDITIONAL LOVE is connected to what in psychology we said the ATTACHMENT BEHAVIOR. Sometimes we really depend on somebody else to feel loved. There is nothing wrong or bad with this. We all have love and want love, is beautiful. The problem comes when you don’t have this person to love you in the way you want, then your energies start to go down, feel that you don’t deserve love, feel empty, lost, fears come, get anxious, depressed, and so on.

Yes, the kind of love most of us practice, CONDITIONAL LOVE, is the most painful one. But is painful because of a reason: TO SHAKE YOUR LIFE, TO HELP YOU TO WAKE UP and see there are other kinds of love and ways to express love much better and fulfilling than this kind of love.

Please answer these questions with the first thing that comes into your mind:

1) As a CONDITIONAL LOVE practitioner, for how many years have you been mastering this art of conditional love? 

2) From where and from who did you learn about CONDITIONAL LOVE?

 

 

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2- UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Wow, so many people talk about this, but I’m sure just a few can really BE it. It is not because only the “chosen ones” can do it. It is more because we are so used to the CONDITIONAL LOVE, we have been mastering it for so many years. We have been wearing blindfolds and masks to attract CONDITIONAL LOVE from others that are very hard to break the patterns and shift into the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

Most of us need to pass through the CONDITIONAL LOVE to understand the unconditional one. Some of these examples of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE comes from our moms. Mother’s love (most of them) reflects this kind of wonderful love. Deep inside they love their kids no matter what. Maybe some mothers don’t express it in the way kids will want but is there. No matter what the kid does, grows ugly or pretty, smart or stupid, this strong love connection between mom and kid will always be there. Is how beautiful women are designed.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, or REAL LOVE like I call it, is the kind of love that holds this universe. Is a divine virtue. It comes from GOD/UNIVERSE/LIFE, or whatever you want to call this higher energy. We come from this higher energy, and we are UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Is the essence of our peaceful soul incarnated in the human bodies.

Like the name said UN-CONDITIONAL, means no condition.  You give love from your heart, and you are happy. You don’t need for somebody else to love you back. It doesn’t work in that way. Comes from inside to outside and embrace every single life form on earth starting from yourself.

Because of the nature of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, our nature, we are not waiting for things to happen. There are no expectations (expectations are always in the future and create anxiety). Everything is in the PRESENT TIME. You love now, you feel it, you are peaceful and happy now. It doesn’t work in the past, past is already an illusion, is not real anymore.

Hard to reach it?  Maybe. Just 3 years ago I totally believed that UNCONDITIONAL LOVE doesn’t exist. I saw so much pain around me, I experienced a lot of pain in my relationship that I was totally blind. If you don’t react because of the pain, if this pain in the shape of a heavy blindfold doesn’t make you feel tired enough and want you to throw it away, you will never have a chance to experience UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

Another thing I learned and is part of the reason why I am writing articles and helping women to understand how life works. Pain is just one way to learn. We don’t need to experience pain to learn, we can start to understand better about LOVE, we (men and women) can start to realize in an earlier stage, what are your options, and which one is better for you. Pain will always be there, you decide how much you want to take.

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3-MIXED LOVE

This is a combination of both. Depend on the situation and will be ruled by your emotions. Sometimes is not healthy to love and not love or add some conditions to the relationships and next day just give up. One day you are 100% lovely, next day you want to kill each other. It may be no so healthy for both in the relationship. This kind of love is also well practiced by many of us. Like I said, emotions rule this kind of love and emotions sometimes are like a roller castle.

You may experience glimpses of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, be aware of them, cherish them. Understand what triggers these moments and try your best to recreate them so you can keep mastering this wonderful and powerful energy.

 

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4- SELF-LOVE

SELF-LOVE is the key to understand UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Period. There is nothing else to say about how to start to explore and live UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. You must start with yourself.

The women got pregnant. The man runs away. The women face a challenge to decide what to do with the baby. She decides to have it and move on as a single mom. What kind of LOVE is she practicing here?

She is allowing LIVE to come to this earth through her. Is a beautiful gesture of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. The new soul will incarnate on earth through her. She comes first. She decided, she will hold the baby for a few months, she will be the gate of this new life. This is SELF-LOVE.  Disregarding the conditions, knowledge or environment she is facing this situation, she put herself first to take control of her life, then the life of the baby.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE starts with yourself. SELF-LOVE is the first step for UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Is easier to start in this way. Start to take care more of yourself. And is not only what you eat, or if you do or not exercise. It is about what you listen, what you see, what you eat, how you think, who you talk to, where you put yourself, what kind of experiences are you facing in life, etc.

Judgment, Criticism, laziness, hatred, pity, guilt, shame, etc, are poisons. Even if you do it inside your head, your heart is taking all this poison you are giving to yourself. Be aware and stop doing this. Think and feel about the opposite.  What is the opposite of being judging people?  What is the opposite of being a hard critic?  What is the opposite of feeling guilty? Use this “opposites” and practice.  Train your mind and make it works for you.

There is something we need to consider too. When is enough pain? How much pain I should receive from my couple? If I am practicing UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, should I accept and take the emotional breakdowns and abuse from my man? Try to see yourself and answer this using the SELF-LOVE concept.

If you have a little SELF-LOVE, you won’t allow abuse from your couple. I know this is a very sensitive topic, just try to see it from a new point of view. The thing is most of us, again, are used to think and feel in ONE WAY ONLY. This may be the way you think with the blindfolds.  SELF-LOVE will help you to take out the blindfolds. You will know when is ENOUGH and move out that toxic relationship or situation. Can be an intimate relationship, can be a dad-daughter relationship, can be a boss-employee relationship, can be that you are a non-smoker and somebody is smoking around you, any. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST and decide what is the best for you. Pain is not the way.

I can say I am lucky enough (lucky= the preparation meets the opportunity) to taste unconditional love.

I was learning about myself, about human behavior, spiritual wisdom and many other Live’s practical knowledge, for more than 6 years already. I was trying to understand what was wrong with me, what was wrong with my wife, and how I can help us to put ourselves in the same place.  That’s the preparation part. Then I face pain, sorrow, sadness, in a big time. I had no choice, I understood this pain was created by me and was inside me. The only way to let that go was to LOVE instead of being AFRAID and HATE. That was my opportunity to practice. Sometimes I used to HATE my sweet mirror (the person that reflected that pain inside me) then I was able to LOVE my mirror. I said inside myself: Thank you for showing me this. I love you, and I will always do. The pain vanished.

I am still practicing this. The inner transformation won’t come in one minute. We may change the way we think in a short period of time, but those old limiting beliefs, those all negative habits, requires time, patience and practice to transform them.

START TO LEARN AND UNDERSTAND NOW. And the most important, PRACTICE WHAT YOU LEARN.

 

“REAL LOVE has no conditions, is free, detached, universal, powerful, transformative, healer, and is our essence. We are unconditional love, and we will always win”   – Angelo-

 

 

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Do it for yourself,  you deserve it!

NEW MINDSET NEW LIFE!

 

 

How to forgive your parents?

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One night I was getting ready to go to eat with my dad and mom, my mom was a little late and my dad started to get mad. They started to argue and yell in the living room, my dad started to get more mad. I was able to see that in his face. I was very scared. I was around 12 years old those days and was not the first time I saw them fighting.

My mom, that is way smaller and weaker than my dad, was also raising her anger and feels like things will get worse. So, it was.

Suddenly my dad pushed my mom and she fell, and I hold her right before she reached the floor.  Then I help her to stand again, leave her and put myself right in the middle of them, facing my dad and protecting my mom like a shield.

I clearly remember I was calm and ready to hit him, I saw him right into his eyes and he looked down, lower his head and move away to his room.

We never talked about the incident after that day.

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Like this, and more dramatic family conflicts happen to many people around the world. Some of us experience physical abuse, verbal abuse, abandon, an addicted parent, a suicidal parent, broken families, divorced parents, etc. These situations impact our mind and heart and most of the time we don’t even notice.

My dad is usually a lovely guy with a bad temper and I truly love him. Is how he is. I love my mom too, she is more tender and lovely but also can get mad. I know they love me back. But what happens when you experience a fight between them? What happens when you are observing the hatred and sadness of your parents? Unconsciously I was hating them for creating these feelings to me. I was hating my dad deep inside my heart because he was emotionally hurting my mom, I was feeling pity of my mom and I was creating a strong limiting belief that I was not able to see until I was into my own intimate relationship years later. This belief was:  Real love between the married couple doesn’t exist.

The conflicts between parents create a huge psychological impact on their kids. More severe when you as a kid get hurt, physically and emotionally. In the surface it may seem all was fine, past is past, but inside a lot of emotional wounds are created by the repressed feelings and the lack of guidance or understanding on how to deal with them in a healthy way.

Based on my career experience and after observing so many cases of my clients, These early traumas are exposed when going into our own intimate relationship. We tend to recreate the same “unsolved” parents’ issue with our couple (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, even kids). Unconsciously we will try to “solve it”, “fix it” or “change it”. At the end nobody is broken, is just a reflection of something that needs to be solved inside ourselves.

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A lot of people will go for seminars, workshops, hire some gurus for help, at most of the time don’t bring the results we want. Why is that?  Because most of us are trying to find a logical solution to an emotional wound that is in our heart. Most of us are trying to look for the reasons of the problem but with this, you are only missing the big scope.  It will never work in this way.

Only few will go for one of the most effective ways to deal with this. Release the anger or fear and finally let go this burden from the root.  The missing part and the way is through FORGIVENESS.
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FORGIVENESS is one of the qualities that make us humans. To forgive is one of our superpowers. Everybody can forgive. Not everybody knows how.

These wounds that were created in childhood by our parents are the root of the limiting beliefs and behaviors of our present time. This belief system is the one that, over time and with energy, will manifest in the real world in all the relationships we experience as adults. All is connected.

A limiting belief leads to a negative behavior or action. The result or consequence that will bring your behavior is more likely to be negative than positive.  Cause and Effect.

So, why we can’t forgive? Is it so hard to do it?   It’s not so hard. Here I will share how to do it.

Just want to mention the following steps don’t come from me. This is the integration of many master’s philosophy and wisdom about forgiveness and how to forgive. Each of us has our own way to do it, this is just one way.

I forget my parents because thanks to them I created on me the belief that real love between the couple doesn’t exist. But I am not blaming them. This process of learning how to forgive them allowed me to understand how love works, how many kinds of love we practice and to tap in the most wonderful and ultimate love.
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ATTENTION: Like anything in life, we need practice and patience to see sustainable and lasting results. Old emotional wounds are deep inside and may require time to heal. The practice of our inner powers such as FORGIVENESS requires time and patience to see results.

STEPS TO FORGIVE YOUR PARENTS

PREPARATION: Take quality time in a calm and quiet place. Turn of your WIFI, put some relaxing music in the background and go for this exercise. Prepare a pen and paper to write down. Please read all the steps first then go to action.

STEP 1) BE SPECIFIC

You must be specific about what you want to forgive and who to forgive. Take your time to have this clear. Remember a specific moment in your childhood. The earliest, the best.

STEP 2) WRITE IT DOWN

Get the pen and paper and write it down clearly what you want to forgive.  Use this simple pattern to guide you:

 

Me, ___(your name) feel___ (negative feelings/emotions) because when I was a___(your age) years old my___ (mom/dad/both) did_______(description of the situation or action that hurt you) this to me.

 
I am an adult now and I understand that__ (fill in)

As an adult, I am responsible for my own emotions and feelings. I want and deserve to have a better____ (fill in) and feel more___(fill in). Because of this, is my time to forgive (mom/dad/both) with all my heart. I forgive you. 

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STEP 3) USE YOUR HEART

Put both of your hands in your heart. Let your feelings come up, accept them as they are. Let tears go out and clean you from inside to outside.

STEP 4) REPEAT

Repeat the statement: “Is my time to forgive (mom/dad/both) with all my heart. I forgive you.” as many times as you need until you feel calm and light. That means you let go that heavy luggage full of negative energy and emotions.
STEP 5) STAY IN SILENCE

After you feel calm and see there are no more things to forgive, stay in silence as long as you can. If you fall sleep is ok. Let sleeping support your process.

STEP 6) HANDLE THE PAPER

You can throw it, keep it, but always be aware that whatever you do is to help you to let go the uncomfortable feelings and limitations that came from the specific situation created by your parents.

STEP 7) REPEAT

You can repeat this exercise, write a new paper and forgive all the things that you had repressed for so long.  Be calm and have patience. With this technique, you need some time to forgive.

 

STEP 8) EXTRA SUPPORT
To reinforce your healing process and create lasting results, you must consider the next steps:

PRACTICE NON-JUDGMENT.

Stop judging your parents because they don’t understand you, or because they don’t give you the kind of love you wanted to receive. Your mom and dad have their own way to express their love. They have their own journey to learn and grow. You cannot change them, change yourself first.

Judgment or criticism is strongly related to holding negative emotions that in long-term hurt us physically and emotionally, and by judging and criticizing others you are also throwing negative energies to them.

VISUALIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALED

Maybe your parents are no longer with you, or maybe they live far away.  They don’t need to be here in the present time besides you to forgive them. Visualize how you want the relationship to be, lovely, caring, simple. Our mind is extremely powerful. Use it to your own benefit.

Imagine yourself smiling and hugging them. Feel it in your heart.

PRACTICE CARE AND COMPASSION

These are other superpowers that come together to support our lives. Learn and practice them with your family and the people around you.

PRACTICE ACCEPTANCE

Learn how to accept other people’s weakness and things you don’t like about them. Also, learn how to take in when somebody does or say something that offends you.

Remember,  this is not easy, that’s why we need guidance and time to practice.

When somebody else, especially the ones that you love the most, do or say something that hurts you, they are just showing you something you need to deal with inside of you. They are mirrors. They reflect on you where you need to work. ACCEPTANCE is very important. Give yourself the chance to see it and raise your awareness.

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The next step is to FORGIVE YOURSELF.  I will write down more about this and share with you.

Hope you find this useful. Let us know about your story and how did you forgive your parents. Is it difficult?  was easy?

And remember: Do it for yourself,  you deserve it!

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3 principles that will help you to find your GIFT

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Many different stressful experiences helped me to realize how life works and how important is to take care of yourself FIRST. Most of the people will think is only about body health, but is not. We must pay attention and work out our mind, body, and soul TOGETHER.

During our process and growth, we will face inevitable challenges, part of this game. Sometimes will be so hard that we will think we cannot handle it but we can.

LIFE/GOD/UNIVERSE will never give us something we cannot handle…and we must learn the unique lesson from the painful experience, otherwise it will come again until we learn.

In those difficult times (that still come), there is only one thing is helping me to move forward. Well, a few things. All the things I tried in life before and love to do. Because there is always something you like to do. Something that doesn’t matter how many hours you put on it, you will keep doing. Something that even if people say is not so good, or is bad, you feel mad, angry but still keep doing.  This thing that is easy for you but not for others. This thing that gives you energy instead of draining it. You can call them your gifts, or talents, or however you want to call them. We all have them.

Life will pass in a blink of an eye. There is no guarantee. Life is risky all the time. Since we are born we have a risk to die. Its time to understand that to live and die are part of the same game. This death is just about the body, our essence will live forever. This essence is connected with your gift or talent.

So is very important to put your time and energies to find this gift, to find what really moves you. It no so easy, especially now in these days where the media and the millions of LOST PEOPLE are telling you what to buy and what to do. But once you find it or them, they will help you to make this life more enjoyable, more happy, more fulfilled.

I am just sharing my experience and I know many people are facing what I was facing many years ago.  So here I want to share 3 principles that I consider very important that will help you to find your gift (s): 

 

1-  START SIMPLE

Many people expend a lot of time and money to go to seminars, courses or buy expensive equipment and then they quit. Nowadays, is more easy to get an idea of what you want to try and see if is of your best interest.

For example, You want to be a dancer? start simple. Search for free classes, trial classes, free videos and learn. Feel it. Record yourself and see yourself doing it. Forget about the YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH, because is true. When you start to explore and find what you like, YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH…YET

2- DO IT TWICE

Maybe you try something and don’t feel nice? Didn’t like it?  Do it one more time in another moment.

We may be in the wrong state of mind (angry, anxious, depressed, etc) so we cannot really connect with the gift or talent immediately. Give yourself one more chance.

3- GET INFORMATION

Ask, Ask, Ask. You want to be a Top Master on a specific area? , search for other successful Masters on the same or similar area you are interested in and learn from them first. See what they did and how is their lives now. Get an idea of how that path will be before you put yourself 100% inside.

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BONUS – STAY COOL FACING DISTRACTIONS

Unfortunately, the people we love the most (mom, dad, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, etc) will make us feel we are not good enough, all the time. Is not their fault, and is not your fault. Is just they don’t understand they should focus on their own stuff.

Learn and practice ways that support your inner peace, your focus and awareness to see beyond what other people see. Train yourself to see what others can’t see.  This is an opportunity for you to create.

The people you love have their own path, you meet them to learn and grow together but it doesn’t mean you will do what they say. Listen to them and chose the best for you first!

 

Do it for yourself, you deserve it.

NEW MINDSET, NEW LIFE!

 

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Angelo Castagneto

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What is The SOUL?

Is not your fault

Whatever is good, and is it for me, It will happen

 

What is The SOUL?

In one of our stress management workshops, one of our students raise a question saying:  “What is the soul?”

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At that moment I was not ready with a clear answer, in fact, I thought everybody in our workshop had the idea of what soul is.  Do you?

If not, here I will share a beautiful way to understand what SOUL is, how it works and how important is to understand this part of your life.

The incredible machine

There is a famous Japanese cartoon from the 70s called MAZINGER Z.

Imagine there is a wonderful creation. An ultimate warrior with a clear mission to project the laboratory that created him and to protect the city from many evil monsters.

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This incredible machine has special and unique features, amazing superpowers and is built with the strongest material available in the world.

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And He is not alone, it also has a partner: Aphrodite A

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But these are just machines. They need somebody to drive them and use them to achieve their missions.

Here is where the role of the pilot comes.

Introducing Koji (Mazinger’s pilot) and Sayaka (Aphrodite’s pilot).

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Before they became the Pilots of Mazinger and Aphrodite they were well trained by the Lead Scientist and Creator of the incredible machines.  But training is not enough, there is also a higher connection between the Pilots and the Creator that provides support and guidance in difficult moments.

There is a strong resonance between the Creator and the Pilots, they have the same Vision of Life and the Mission to protect the city and the laboratory from the evil monsters.

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Still, there is something missing, the pilots cannot just drive the machines. They need something to help them to do that, like an interface or hardware with controls.  Here is where the PILDER comes.

Pilders are vehicles that serve as command centers for the giant robots.

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They are the most advanced vehicles and act as the control room that can host the pilots, becoming the interface to ride the wonderful warriors.

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When these 3 pieces are combined, they become ONE!

PILOT+PILDER+MAZINGER …they are unstoppable

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Mazinger itself cannot work without Koji and the Pilder. Koji cannot drive the Mazinger without the Pilder, and the Pilder itself is just a flying control room without command and force. The combination is what makes them unique and powerful.

 

Is this metaphor already raising some answers of WHAT SOUL IS?

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Yes, you are very smart!

OUR SOUL IS THE PILOT.

The soul is the essence of any human being. Some people also call it SPIRIT and make reference to us as spiritual warriors.

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This has nothing to do with the religions and the manipulation of people, this is a pure and simple fact of what we are and how we work. God and Universe have NO RELIGION.

The soul is the one that has a mission, something to do, through a vehicle that supports the materialization of the energies of creation.

The soul is a pure and peaceful energy that comes from a higher and older source.

 

Then what are the control room (Pilder) and the incredible machine (Mazinger)?

The Control Room is our Mind.  Our mind will help the soul to process the instructions and manifest them in the real life through the machine, this incredible machine is our Body.

 

This is what makes us humans:

SOUL+MIND+BODY= HUMAN 

 

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Our Soul is the pilot and through the mind, controls the body

Think about this. Reflect on this.  Meditate on this.

Once you feel this is true and real for you, make it yours and live it…every day of your life.

 

Take care of each of your parts, because all of them are equally important for you to BE.

  • Be aligned
  • Be calm
  • Be Powerful
  • Be you!

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Is not your fault

 

Is not your fault if you feel you are not complete

Is not your fault if you feel shame and guilt for your actions

Is not your fault if you are eating unhealthy food knowing that is unhealthy

 

Here 3 reasons why is not your fault

1) You want to survive

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You came from a powerful source full of love as a default setting, but you arrive into a chaotic world full of people that are lost trying to achieve only material things forgetting that the balance of SOUL+MIND+BODY is the key to grow to the next level. The next level where we are super beings free from pain, absolutely prosperous and full of unconditional love.

We arrive here with a lot of power and love and the people around us, starting with family, start to tell us and teach us what to do.

All that information is received, digested and internalized (even if you do not agree with that) and we believe this information is real, covering and forgetting our own original information that came with us since we were born.

As a child we want to survive so we follow the others.

Inner questions sometimes manifest and we say it. We speak them out, and most of the time can’t be answered by the people around us, or we are just told to shut up. At the end we shut up, listen and follow.

 

2) Multiple Realities

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Our family, teachers, friends, etc., have their own realities. Each of them has a specific set of talents, strengths, weaknesses, personalities, experiences, and wounds to heal. Same for us. For you and me.

Not so many people understand this, so we are forced to study inside systems where everybody is treated in the same way, and when somebody “fails” is punished.

We still can see this reality and won’t disappear so fast, is the old way of “personal and professional development” running on earth. Thank God (or whoever you believe) this is changing.

New education systems are already in place giving the chance to the individual talented human to explore and rediscover himself.

What about the people that are working and already passed this ancient education system?

You got into another system: the office job.

One man’s dream supported by many robots (you).

This is part of our lives and we all know somebody that is working in a place that hates just because of the financial or family pressure.

There are other realities to explore. You can still work in your boring job and at the same time explore other options, make your own side project or just try things you never tried before.

Move, Adjust, Explore.

There is more than one channel in this TV of Life.

 

3) You are not broken is just a habit

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Our brain (if is not trained) is very lazy. We like to do the same thing until something extraordinary happens, like a big disease to wake up, react and adjust our life.

Sometimes is too late and we change our way of seen life right before we experience our transition.

 

Here some questions for you:

Do you have a happy memory of the first time you went to your favorite fast food restaurant?

Take a minute and remember that moment.

Maybe your family was together with you? They brought you to eat that tasty fast food and you were happy.

Maybe you went there with your friends and had a great funny moment eating that food? You were happy. You, your mind, your mouth, and body remember the feeling and experience.

Now, as a grown-up human, you learn and clearly understand that fast food is not healthy at all.  (like it or not is true)

So, why you keep eating that?

 

There is nothing wrong with you. You are not anxious or sick. Old habits die hard that’s all.

For how long (years) you have been eating fast and trash food?  5 years? 10 years? More?

That makes you an expert, an expert on eating fast food. The chance that this habit is connected to a happy or comfortable memory is very high too.

Or maybe is just because is more “convenient and cheaper” to eat fast food so you do it.

These are limiting habits and limiting habits can be transformed.

Cancer, diabetes, heart diseases, are killing millions of people every day around the world. Is already proved, many years ago, that the eating habits of “the modern lifestyle” are 90% related to the diseases we have, the main trigger of these global killers.

Don’t wait until is too late. Learn how to transform habits gradually. It is hard and possible. Be patient.  You can build new healthy habits at any time.

 

 

So, yes is not your fault. You are part of a nasty, corrupted and fast-reward oriented society. Welcome to earth 2018.

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Just don’t forget:

You didn’t do anything wrong and what happened in the past is GONE

Now, YOU are totally responsible for what you will do now. Present time looking to your future.

 

Right after finishing reading this article:

  • Are you going just to finish this and go back to your normal life?
  • Are you going to have some minutes and reflect on this?
  • What kind of action will you take to improve your life?
  • Do you know somebody else that may need this information?

 

Your mental and body health are in your hands. You decide how you want to live the rest of your time in this life.

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More health? happier? More peaceful?

You deserve it!  Do it for yourself!

 

New Mindset, New Life!

 

 

 

YOU ARE NOT A LEADER

The early conditioning of human beings is one of the biggest reason why we are suffering in this life.

I was raised in a Latin culture where the MACHO is the one that “control” the situation, have more power, more girls, and is cooler.

In other parts of the world, they treat the role of LEADER as sacred, and there are so many people that want to become leaders without even noticing that they need to rule their lives first and understand how they are made of.

All this “misunderstanding” mislead the child to grow out thinking to become somebody he or she was not designed to be. The classic situation is the parents wishing the child to become successful, ha! another abstract concept to define.

Each of us is born with a set of talents and skills that, with an investment of time and energies can be developed in our ultimate strengths. We are born in a specific family to cultivate and explore this talents and skills, and what is more interesting and real, we have preset features that contribute and energize this talents and skills.

Unfortunately, most of us don’t have the opportunity to even explore and discover these talents, or understand what kind of energies rules our design as a human being. For those who can, learn, understand and use them, become widely successful in life, and successful (on my point of view and experience) is this unique kind of people that contribute to the life of millions of people, guidance, and also with huge amounts of wealth as a result of the value they bring to other humans. I call them SUPER HUMANS

Maybe you heard, but no more than 10% of the world population achieve this level of development. less than 10% become SUPER HUMANS. What about the 90% of the humanity?

Today, there are many ways, tools, assessments, to understand WHO and WHAT YOU ARE! One of them and the one that I am recently learning is called HUMAN DESIGN.

Human Design is a combination of numerology, astrology, ancient – Asian wisdom and more, that throws a very interesting report, rich and complex, but very accurate explaining some behaviors based on the energy level.

This is my profile:

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I have been learning and get a deep understanding about myself since 2012, and after I learned Human Design and saw my profile and chart, I decided: There is no more to learn, that’s all, I finished!

But this report itself is not all, looks complex and is complex, but we are even more complex. We are unique, we are connected with other people, and we are part of something bigger.

Other key references for you if you want to learn more about yourself and really clear out your whys, I suggest you check:

  1. DISC Behavioral Assessment – From Thomas International UK (they called: PPA assessment)
  2. Strengths Finder – Talent Assessment From Gallup US
  3. And Human Design from JOVIAN ARCHIVE

Combine wisdom, explore, and bring up your own answers. We are beautiful creatures that deserve to be understood. After you know WHO and WHAT you are, you can “put yourself” in better situations, you can connect with better people that can support you, you can build better relationships, and REALLY, and FINALLY, ENJOY YOUR LIFE based on your design.

BE THE LEADER OF YOUR LIFE! 

Whatever is good, and is it for me, It will happen

Hola papi todo bien por aca.  ahorita tengo unos minutos libres para escribirte 😊

Hi dad, everything ok here.  I have some minutes to write to you 🙂 

Desde hace unos dias atras estaba super estrezado buscando nuevo lugar para hacer las sesiones de RELAX y me di cuenta que estaba cayendo en el mismo juego que yo se,  tratando de controlar todo y hacer todo para que pase, sin enfocarme al concepto original de RELAX que es NO STRESS jaja.

A few days ago I have been very stressed searching for a new place to our RELAX sessions and I realized I was falling into the game I know: trying to control everything, make everything happen, without focusing in the original concept of RELAX that is: NO STRESS – haha!

Cuando hacia por unas unas oraciones y meditacion,  me di cuenta que estaba forzando todo para que pase y asi NO PASA NUNCA,  y mentalmente deje ir todo.  Me dije a mi mismo que estaba esforzandome mucho,  y luego  de unos dias mande un mensaje pidiendo ayuda a los amigos para que me recomienden algun lugar..y ahi salio todo! haha.  recomendaron algunos lugares y ya encontre uno lindo.   van a apoyar y cuando hayan estudiantes abro el seminario, si no hay, no abro, asi que no hay por que hacerse mas problemas.

When I was doing some prayers and meditation, I realized that I was forcing everything to happen and it that way will never happen. Mentally I let go everything.  I told to myself that I was making too many efforts. After a few days, I sent a message to my friends asking for help to recommend me a nice place and everything happen! haha! They recommended me some places, I found a beautiful one.  They will support and when we have enough students we open the sessions, if not, we don’t open. That’s the way to be without problems.

 

Todo fluye mas facil.

Every flows more easy now.

 

Y otra cosa,  que al querer hacer todo tu te olvidas que Dios o el Universo, o la Vida en general, te pueden ayudar. Es Real.  Esto ya lo vivi muchas veces en los ultimos anios y todavia me olvido que es asi.  La prosperidad siempre viene cuando uno esta abierto a recibir, sin miedo, sin expectativas.

And another thing, when you want to do everything we usually forget that God, Universe o Life, in general, can help us. Is Real.   I already lived this many times in the last years and I still forget this is like this.  Prosperity always come when you are open to receive, without fear, without expectations

 

Un dia me puse a meditar, quede en mucha paz y me quede dormido.   luego de esto me levante con una melodia en la cabeza y una letra que decia en ingles con una voz de mujer cantando:

CUALQUIER COSA QUE SEA BUENA

Y QUE ESTA AHI PARA MI

VA A PASAR

y eso me lleno de confianza y tranquilidad.

 

One day I was meditating, I went into a deep peace and fell sleep. After this, I woke up with a melody in my head and lyrics in English with the voice of a woman singing:

Whatever is good

And is there for me

It will happen

That fulfilled me with confidence and calmness

 

Muchas veces trato de que pase algo “creyendo” que es lo mejor para mi, pero cuando nos enfrentamos a muchos obsctaculos y complicaciones, es una indicacion que talvez no es el camino a seguir.

Many times I try for this to happen “believing” is the best for me, but when we face obstacles and challenges, it may be a sign this is not the way to go.

 

Y asi,  ahi ahora vamos con calma,  abierto a recibir,   acaban de salir unos buenas tocadas que pagan mucho mas que otras y solo toco unos minutos.  Tambien me invitaron a un programa para entrenar jovenes emprededores y orientarlos por varios diass,  etc.   TODO LO BUENO, QUE ESTA AHI PARA MI (alineado con lo mi disenio humano, mi mision, mis fortalezas, VA A PASAR )

Yea, thats all.  We go more calm, open to recieve, and recenlty we got great new jobs, pay more than others and just need to play some minutes. Also I was invited to a program to train young entrepreneurs and guide them for many days.  ALL THE GOOD, THAT IS THERE FOR ME (aligned with my human design, my mission, my strengths) IT WILL HAPPEN! 

 

Los quiero mucho!

Love you all!

AC

 

 

 

Music, Dad, Healing

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When I was very little I used to be very attached to my dad. He is a lovely person but very emotional and with a lot of repressed emotions, especially anger. 

 

Time passed and I was able to connect with the piano, is like MUSIC called me to be part of it. 

 

I started to play and learn by myself just by listening, I was only 4 years but got totally captured by those wonderful sounds and keys.

 

I grew up in the middle of constant argues, fights and loud sounds at home, so I developed my own way of being CALM and FOCUSED, and music helped me to achieve that. 

 

But I was not the only one being “healed” by my music, my dad was also there.

 

I will never forget that I used to love to play piano around 11 pm when everybody was more calm and ready to sleep. I used to go out of my room, go to the living room where the piano was, sit there in the dark and play for myself.  Suddenly I felt some soft steps behind me, slowly go and sit near me but far enough to not bother me. It was him. My dad.

 

In silence, we were calming down after a long day, without being able to understand our own emotions, our anger, our pains, but deeply connected by the melodies that came through me,  a wonderful and peaceful moment. 

 

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Thank you DAD for this experience. Now I understand how it works, and I am using this to help more people like us. You showed me the way.

 

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Why you must practice meditation?

  •  80% of the most wonderful and successful people in the world practice meditation.

  • They are not only making millions but also helping millions of people through their businesses and projects.

  • Meditation is not an old practice exclusive for gurus, spiritual masters, or monks anymore.  Meditation is for everybody.

  • Learn and Use it!

 

 

Other recommended articles:

The kind of love you know is the one that brings you pain

Stress is Killing us

Why you get sick?

Angels, Coaching and Self-Coaching Exercise

How to teach creativity to your kids

 

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How to teach creativity to your kids

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I have never been good at speaking.  It took me years to be able to express myself in public, on the stage,  and conquer that fear. I still consider myself as an introvert artist, and you know what?  I  love it.

I just want to share something I wanted to share a long time ago.  Is my first memory of me being an artist and who is my first art teacher in life.

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Definitely, I was around 4 years old. I use to be scared of my dad coming back from parties or meeting with friends because sometimes he was a little drunk, so I was not able to sleep by myself in my own room.  There was a lot of love from my mom and dad towards me and also I love them a lot, but in those days I was not able to understand many things, their problems, struggles, insecurities, etc.  I was in the middle of all their chaos.

So, as kids, we need to survive and we will always find the way…my way was ART!

NOTE: And if you are reading this now is also because you found the way to stay alive.  Congratulations!

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“My lovely Dad, beautiful Mom and my sister, 50 years ago.  Love this photo. Miss them a lot.”

 

My mom used to play with me a game, and this is what you can do with your kids too.

I loved to draw, and my mom knew it. She gave me a white piece of paper,  then she makes a fast random drawing (in Spanish we call: garabato) so It will look something like this:

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Then she said:  OK,  now you finish the drawing!

Then she gave me the same pencil she was using to draw.  I take it,  and I start to “SEE” what kind of image comes there using those lines.

In my imagination, at that early age, there were no so many crazy dark things haha….so I was more into complete something using some existing simple images in my head.

Then I started to draw, and when I finish, there was something like this:

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2 guys happy doing surfing on a beautiful beach!

 

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a little girl trying to reach the piano keys

 

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A hungry antbear eating ants

 

I remember very well these moments of peace and connection with my mom. I will never forget them. 🙂

 

If you are a mom, want to be a mom, or know somebody that wants to become a mom,  share this.  And remember:

Everybody has an artist inside, no matter where you are from, how beautiful or ugly is your life. The connection between two human beings through art can be so powerful that can completely transform lives in a very positive way.

Never judge your kid’s art.  Guide them, and If you cannot stop judging, at least shut up, observe and appreciate it.

DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM & JUDGMENT can be also destroying the life of a potential artist that will create THE NEW WORLD.

 


 

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Angelo Castagneto (AC): The Relax Coach

Musician, Sculptor, Corporate Trainer, Stress Management Coach, Public Speaker, Writer

 

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