You must consider this before you get divorce

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A scary average number of 40% of the marriages are getting divorced in Asia. In some countries, higher than others.  According to China Daily, by 2014, approximately 10,000 marriages were breaking up every day.

WHY? Is there no love anymore? Somebody cheat? Was the marriage arranged? What about your kids?

Just consider this before you get a divorce:



If there is a small amount of hope that the relationship can get better, try it all before you quit.

We will go deeper now.

The original idea of why a man meets women, fall in love, and get married, is a LIFE PATTERN. But this pattern has a higher purpose: TO GROW AND SUPPORT EACH OTHER.

To be married is not easy, and nobody told us this. What we learned is the stupid unreal stories from TV or MOVIES that show us that all is beautiful and love should last for ever and ever WITHOUT ANY EFFORT. Good news! Is not true.

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HOPE is one of the most wonderful powers of human beings, and if you still have a little, go a search for solutions, hire therapists, learn about relationships and give your marriage one more chance to GROW AND SUPPORT EACH OTHER

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If you believe in soulmates, the perfect partner, etc., I hope you also understand that we are all humans and Life have ups and downs all the time, so even if your relationship started with pure love and passion, it doesn’t mean will stay like that forever.

The biggest challenge and test we face in Marriage is the MIRROR EFFECT.  What we see in our partner and hate about it, is something we hate inside ourselves.  That “something” is what we need to hear, hold it, heal it.

If you want to get a divorce because there is “something” you don’t like in your partner, a bad experience that hurt you, etc., there is a big chance you will face it again with your next partner if you don’t do anything about it.

Deal with this thing you hate, learn how to control your inner game, learn how to manage your emotion and become mentally and physically stronger! give yourself a chance to grow!

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Babies are created by 3 main energies:  Male Energy, Female Energy, and the new born Energy. Babies come pure and innocent to this world and get influenced by the parent’s belief system, stress from the environment, teachers, etc.

For a healthy growth (mentally and physically) the baby needs both energies (masculine and feminine energy) to support his development as a human.  We are not talking about the baby’s future sexual orientation, we are talking about the basic needs for a human to grow in balance.

The human behavior started to be developed and influenced since the last 3 months of pregnancy, and will continue to evolve until we are adults.  If one of the energies is missing or is unbalanced, this will create a huge impact on the psychology of the new human.

Is in your hands to take the responsibility and decide the best for you and your kids. Learn more about Human development and behavioral traits, will give you more information for you to take the right decision.

I know this is a very sensitive topic, I was also in a similar situation like you.

which one should you put first? Your own happiness? A safe break up? The kids?

If there is nothing else to do and go for the separation, go for a harmonious one, there are support and guidance to achieve this out there.

Just remember this: The best way to take decisions is to focus on the result you want. Find the Vision of your life, your Mission, and this will guide you always to take decisions by LOVE instead of FEAR

Do it for you and the ones you love! You deserve it! – NEW MINDSET, NEW LIFE!


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Why you get sick?


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Why you get sick? by AC

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You think you get sick because something you eat, because the weather change, or because someone around you is sick, so he or she passed this to you; right? …IS NOT!   THIS IS AN ILLUSION!

Here 3 reasons why you get sick. Open your eyes and ears and check this out!


1) You get sick because you want attention from somebody

Our minds are wonderful but also tricky. We don’t really know how it works but I will give you an idea.

For example: you feel sick, maybe has some weird pain around, then you go to see the doctor and he say: “all is fine, just need to rest and drink water”. Of course, you experience this before, or somebody around you experience this before.

Another example:  When you are sick, do you like other people to take care of you?  Do you want your mom to cook for you a nice soup? Or your boyfriend to accompany you?

Unconsciously, one of the biggest reasons we get sick is because we are searching for ATTENTION


The feeling and fear of separation came with us inside millions of years ago, but this is one of the biggest illusions of human kind. We are complete, find what you think is missing inside you!


2) You get sick because you are an expert on “SELF DESTRUCTIVE HABITS”

For how long you have been sleeping late; suffering “insomnia”; waking up late with low energies?

For how long you have been eating your “Midnight snack” and think is normal and part of the culture?

For how long you have been drinking alcohol, smoking, or consuming any other drugs?

If your answer is more than 30 days, that means you are facing a bad habit, nothing else.  If you say, I have been doing this for years…that makes you an expert.

Good news for you! In the same way you learned this self-destructive habits, you can learn constructive habits to replace the old ones.

You get sick because you want, period! Find the most destructive habit you have, search on internet for solutions or send us an email to receive guidance to support your decisions. Do it! Create a new you!


3) You get sick because your energies are low

Unfortunately, most of us realize our energies are low when is too late. When you get sick your energies are already very low.

Raise your awareness; identify which of your actions brings the energies down. This is a mind and body issue, and this is not something spiritual or esoteric stuff; IS A FACT!

Here a list of 7 common things that brings your energies down and maybe you don’t know.

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Our body is a high tech biological machine! And the mind is just the pilot of this amazing creation.  If you want to bring your energies up, you just need to take one first step: LEARN HOW TO USE YOUR BODY!  LEAR ABOUT YOUR BODY AND ENERGIES!


So, don’t forget about these 3 ideas and concepts that will help you in your life:


Do it for yourself, you deserve it!


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Why your man doesn’t want to change?



Original concept by AC

July 2017


There is a story of a woman who used to love 3 suitcases.  These 3 suitcases were special gifts given by some people she loved since she was a little kid.  One suitcase was given by a man, so this suitcase was big, heavy, simple and quiet. It has simple dark colors, grays, blues, blacks. Inside of this suitcase there was: respect, strength, rudeness, achievement, and at the end, in the bottom, there was love.

The second suitcase was given by a woman, so this suitcase was smaller than the first one, still heavy, complex and loud. It’s colorful with different patterns, very creative, purples, oranges, golds, silvers, green, whites and pinks. Inside this suitcase there was: love, patient, empathy, softness, and at the end of the suitcase, in the bottom, there was respect.

The third suitcase was created by a child, so this suitcase was smaller and light, it was transparent, so you can see from the outside what was inside. Very beautiful and new design that attracted the eye of anybody that see it. Inside this suitcase there was: fun, adventure, curiosity, sensibility, a hug, a big flashlight, and at the end of this suitcase, in the bottom there was an empty white box. This beautiful white box with no decoration or style, just a box, like waiting to be decorated and filled.

This woman was carrying all these 3 suitcases for years.  Every time she saw the man she loved, she took out her big suitcase and search inside what she can show to the man, so the man was happy.

Another day, she met the woman she loved and she took out the colorful suitcase, open it and took things to show to the woman, so the woman was happy.

Most of the time she was taking out the big suitcase and colorful suitcase, and almost never, using the transparent small suitcase.

Years passed, and this woman grew up. She started to feel tired and weak most of the time, She start to feel it was so heavy to carry these 3 suitcases, and she started to notice the suitcases started to get bigger and bigger without explanation.

She got used to pick up only the big suitcase and the colorful suitcase. The small suitcase started to look dirty, old, and useless.


One day she decided to take vacations, she was tired of her job and she thought that a vacation will make her feel better and relaxed, so she went into a cruise.  When she was packing she decided to bring only 2 suitcases.

In the cruise, she met lovely men and lovely women, and every time she was meeting then she took out one of her suitcases and showed them. Everything was fine.

The 2nd day of the trip, In the middle of the night suddenly there was an alarm!  she woke up by the loud sound and was very scared.  She also heard people screaming and yelling, was like hell.  In one moment, she thought she will die.

There was somebody talking on the speakers and giving instructions: “We have limited emergency boats, so please come to the emergency boarding place and please you can carry only a small suitcase with the most important things for you.”

She immediately took the smallest suitcase she had, open it, and start to put the most important things she considers was for her. Then she ran outside to find the boarding place to scape. But there was a long way to go. The emergency boats where in the other side of the cruise, and she need to run through a 1,000 meter corridor to reach that exit.

She left her room, and the first thing she realize was there was no light.  She thought: Hmm a big flashlight would be very useful in this case.

In total darkness, there were some voices at the end of the hall, so she started to move towards those voices. After 100 meters of walking she found a group of kids, there were totally terrified and didn’t want to move. They just had some matches to give them light, and then one of them, saw her and say:  These are my 2 brothers, we are very scare, can you make something funny for us to laugh? Can you tell us any of your adventure stories so we can calm down and move? Please!

The woman didn’t know what to do, she just took some steps back, go back to the corridor and move forward, leaving the kids behind. She thought: I will find somebody to come back for them.


After 200 meters of walking, then she found a man tied up with chains, with weird futuristic lock holding the chains together and trapping the man.

He said: “I don’t know what to do, I can’t reach this weird lock, and even if I can, I don’t know how to open.  I was never curious about things like this and I am afraid I can’t even try to open, can you?”

She said: “No, I can’t, I never tried before, I never care about these things, sorry. I will find somebody to help you!

He said: “please don’t leave me”

But she left, and the man stayed alone.

The woman started to slightly remember, she used to have these things in her small transparent suitcase, but she left this at home. She just kept moving, but she was feeling very weak and tired.

After 500 meters of walking she found an old woman, besides her there was a small flashlight and looks like running out of batteries soon.  The old woman had a very bad wound on both of her legs, she knew she won’t make it, so she told the woman:  I just need a true hug!

The woman used her brain and she answered: “You will be fine, but I can’t help you now. I will find somebody else to help you”- Then she left.

She was thinking she was so tired, also scared and she never gave or received a true hug to anybody in her life, so she didn’t know how to give it. And after so many years practicing being serious and feeling-less, she didn’t know how to express herself.

The woman kept moving forward, passed the 800 meters, she was carrying her suitcase and thinking in all the people she left behind.

Arriving to the final 5 meters, she saw a light, like those emergency lights going black-red black-red…and then she saw a big guardian in the gate. This guardian was wearing a heavy mask, heavy armor, and waiting with a sword.

The woman just kept moving and wanted to cross the gate, in the back of the guardian, she saw the door was open, and the people outside there were boarding the emergency boats.  Then suddenly the guardian put the arm out blocking her to go in, and with a deep low voice, said:

“Show me what you had created!”

She was totally puzzled, and said: “what?!”

The guardian repeated with a stronger tone: “Show me what you had created for the people!”

She said: “I don’t understand! Let me in!”

The guardian said: “The white box!  Open the white box!  Show me what you have created and put in!”

She hesitated for long seconds, until she remembered, at the bottom of the transparent suitcase there was a white box.

She opened the suitcase and showed what she was carrying. The guardian said: “This is not want I want!”

She said: “what I can I do, I already came here, I am very tired, I just want to continue my journey! Please.

The guardian said: There is something you can do so you can go outside and board the boats.

She said: “what is that? – Tell me!”

The guardian said: “Help me to take out this mask, is too heavy and I can’t breathe well.  There is a key to open and release my mask, one of the persons you left behind has it. Find it!

She was mad, and from the anger she got energies, then she shouted:

“NO WAY! I can’t help you, I can’t help them, I can’t!” – then she started to cry, and tried to run outside through the gate.  The guardian held her and pushed her back.

The guardian said: I know you can’t help them now, but if you don’t try, you can’t go out through this door. Use that anger and the last drops of energies and go back, help somebody, find the key and come here. Hurry!

With tears on her eyes and anger on her guts, she turned and ran back.   She started to move back, but suddenly the guardian yelled:

“WAIT!   Take my sword, this will help you to break the lock!”

She took the sword, and started to use her logical thinking: who can I help first, what if I fail, I can’t give a real hug, what if I cut the man instead the lock, I feel pressure, time is running, I may not have space to save my life. She crashed.  She put her knees down and collapse in the wet floor of the dark corridor.

There was a new message on the speakers, the voice said: “We still have places for women and children to get saved, there is no much time, Hurry!”

She heard this, and with her last energy, she grabbed the sword, used it to stand up, and went back.

Without thinking she went to the place where the man was trapped with the chains and the weird lock.

She went in, saw the man, and using a singular rudeness and strength, she cut the lock in half and freed the man!

He came out the chains, and He started to cry!  He said: “Thank you so much!” – and without notice he hugged her. She received the most warm and true hug in her live!  She never felt that before. Then she hugged back.

She asked him: “Do you have the key?”

He said: “what key?”

She said: “There is a guardian at the end of this corridor, He told me to come back and search for a key, do you have it?”

He said: “I don’t know what you are talking about.”

She just moved her head down in a sign of disappointment, and she was ready to prepare to run and find the other person to help, suddenly the man said:

“I don’t know about a key but I have this maybe it can help!”

He gave her a small piece of iron with the shape of the letter C, she took it, kept it and moved to the next person!

Then she was running like her live depend on it, and she arrived at the place of the old woman.

The old woman looked terrible, but calm and patient.  Her eyes where full of kindness.

The woman threw the sword, and run to the old woman, and hug her.  There was a huge energy around them, there was unconditional love, empathy and softness.

The old lady asked the woman: “Do you want to hear a story?”

She said: “Yes” – with tears on the eyes.

The old lady said:

When I was a kid, I used to carry a transparent suitcase to everywhere I go.  I used to have 3 suitcases, but I hate them. There was nothing I wanted on them and the people who like them. They were also big and heavy.

So, I grew up, started to travel around, I met a lot of men, most of them broken-hearted, I was doing great money, but something was missing. I was missing my family, I was missing myself.

One day I met a wonderful man, He was carrying a different suitcase I never saw before in my life. It was black, red and yellow. He told me, is something he created by himself, and I was very surprised.  This man was helping people and sharing a lot of amazing ideas, creating and celebrating every success in his life. I asked him, how did you do it?  How come you are not carrying 3 suitcases, and enjoying the life-like this?

He just said: “everything started with a white box.”


The old lady threw her last breath, slowly and peacefully closed her eyes.

She put her down on the bed, and then the old women’s hand dropped a piece of iron. It looked like a small stick.  She just took it and move on.

Inspired by the story but without understanding clearly what was that, the woman kept running towards the place where the 3 kids where.  She arrived.   Totally exhausted, and with the last drops of energy on her face, she smiled to them and said: “I have a story!”

She told the story of a brave old woman and the man.  The kids where very curious and interested, and finally this helped them to smile.  Their state totally changed and they got encouragement to stand up and move to the gate!

She said: “Hey wait! before you go, do you have the key?

The kids said: “what key?”

She said: “There is a guardian at the end of this corridor, and I need to find a key to open the mask”

The kids where watching her in a weird way, and said: “No, We don’t know about that…but  We have something that looks like a ring, maybe can help you?

The woman took it, and realized there were 3 parts, these 3 parts can connect to each other.  And then form… A KEY!!!!

The kids saw this, and were so happy, they ran first, they had a lot of energies, and they arrived first to the gate and go outside without problems.

The woman, was behind them, and then finally she arrived and meet the guardian again.

The guardian said: “Do you have the key?”

She said: “Yes”

The guardian turned back and said: “Please open the mask”

She was very careful, introduced the key in the back hold of the mask and open it.

The mask was heavier than she thought.  When the guardian was opening it, she could see the mask was very thick, with different iron layers. She also realized the first layers inside, where rusty and older than the outside layers.

Suddenly, a piece of long hair was revealed, the hair fell and drop to the height of the shoulders of the guardian.

Surprised and scared, she dropped the key, and move some steps backs while the guardian was standing up.

The guardian turned back and face her.

The guardian was like a broken mirror of the woman.  She was totally wounded by the rusty iron.  She was completely frozen observing how similar they were.

Another announcement broke that moment, on the speakers this message: “THIS IS THE FINAL CALL, WE ARE LEAVING NOW! HURRY UP!”

The guardian said: “What are you waiting!  Go!”

The woman started to move very slowly, and then get some speed, she crossed the gate, then the guard said: “WAIT!  Bring your white box” – the guardian tossed her the white box.

The woman caught it, and run to the emergency boats.

The last boat was almost departing, only with a big jump she could make it.  Almost at the edge of the platform, there was the man she set free before.  He extended his hand and gave her a big push, then she used this and jumped right into the last boat.  She made it!


Without energy anymore, she started to blink, the sight started to be blur, and when she was closing her eyes she saw the 3 kids on the same boat, then she smiled and faint.


You will always have a chance to use all your gifts!

 You will always have a chance to create!

 Find the key, hurry!

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Why your man doesn’t want to change? by AC

Dear all, especially women, there is a myth about what you think men should be.  First of all, we are not broken, we are just stubborn and a little stupid.

Here, 3 reasons why men don’t want to change:


1)  Men are from Mars, Women from Venus

If you haven’t read yet the book called Men are from Mars, Women from Venus,  by John Gray,  and you are struggling a lot wondering and expecting things from your men, I strongly suggest you read it!


The first thing you must understand is MEN ARE NOT WOMEN, and both have different features and ways to see life.

Yes, we all have same needs, different personalities, backgrounds, etc, but there is basic stuff nobody teach us when we were kids or even adults.


This is how it works:

Men (apply for most of us), We FIND A PROBLEM AND WANT TO PROVIDE THE SOLUTION, Women (apply for most of you girls), You are the expression of LOVE and want to HEAL PEOPLE.  So when you see a “PROBLEM” in your man, by nature you want to heal it and provide a solution, but WE are the solution providers, so we feel disrespected.



Now, when we feel disrespected by our woman, is a NEW PROBLEM, and we need to solve it- by ourselves.

That’s why girls, when you want to tell your man things like: Hey, you should join this seminar, will be nice for you, or you should learn this, or why you are so stubborn (thing that is real), why you don’t talk to me…all these are classic misunderstanding because we (men and women) don’t understand how it works.   LEARN THE DIFFERENCES

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Since childhood, here, there, and in most of the countries, Men is the one that cannot express feelings. Boys don’t cry, you are a man! You are strong, family relies on you! You are born like that, you will never change! And so many other bullshits.

It’s so important to understand how bad this “cultural patterns” affect men since childhood. That’s why we grow up believing CHANGE is not part of us.


In some countries in Latin America or Asia, this is very strong. In Latin America is the concept of MACHO, In Asia is more the idea of LOSING FACE, and so many other stupid labels people created based on the ignorance and lack of wisdom.

Man! Don’t blame your parents or teachers, or the “system” TAKE ACTION NOW, Men can express feelings, find the way, and better do that fast or you will repress emotions until is too late.



This resistance to change is our FIXED MINDSET. This is a little more complex psychology concept case and apply for both, men and women.

For some reasons, some of us think and believe (from the heart) that we are born with a certain level of “SMARTNESS”, some specific “TALENTS” and this cannot change.  If you are born as a GIFTED person, that’s all you have. – I confess, I used to think in that way.

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But the truth is everything can grow, your IQ, EQ, SQ can be developed, your personality traits also can evolve and be adjusted, your talents can grow and be transformed into POWERFUL SKILLS, and all this just take one step out of your CONFORT ZONE.  TAKE IT! TRY IT! Work out your mindset, develop some reading habits, learn from successful people, join some personal development seminars, and open your mind!

So here are the 3 reasons why men don’t want to change

1) Women, you think men should be like you, but we are not.  For both of us (Men and Women) go and learn the differences, and if you can learn together is better 🙂

2) Men, the things that happened to us is past, is old stuff. Write a new story about you and express your feelings!

3) We may be a little stubborn and stupid but is not written in a ROCK!  We can change this!  Men out there, open yourself and explore, MORE YOU ARE, MORE YOU CAN DO!



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About the author:

Angelo Castagneto (AC) was born in Ecuador South America in 1981. Since he was a kid he started to develop a huge interest in music and art, interest that today is applied for his coaching/art therapy sessions. Since he was 4 years old he learned piano, drawing, painting, and one of his favorites, sculpting, by himself.

But this was just the beginning of his life. Growing up he realized people come to him to ask for advice very frequently. This was an unconscious talent that later will be developed into a powerful skill to transform lives.

After moving to China in 2009, He started to go into a deeper self-discovery, been 2015 the most important shift in his life, that’s when he became an entrepreneur to follow his dreams and passions. Key training and certification took place and the learning process will never stop, a must in AC’s mindset. One of his favorite phrases to reinforce this is: “MORE WE ARE, MORE WE CAN DO”

Today AC is helping people in China to find their passions, to understand people’s behaviors, helping entrepreneur women to transform obstacles and develop business ideas, this is just the beginning.

There are no limits for what AC and his team will create, time will tell.